We live together day in and day out.. We used to have everything in common...Now I feel so distant from her.I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety and its taken a toll on our relationship.I don't think that she really is all that interested in me anymore..Day after day and night after night she is doing other things and has told me things that upset her because she doesn't understand the feelings I have ..She has hurt me and made me feel bad and like she isnt interested anymore.I feel like im alone and deserted and feel like I really got sick I would totally be alone .. I don't feel that happiness between us anymore.. and we are just existing together..What should I do?I just feel like im existing now and nothing really matters anymore..Should I just be content or should I leave and let her alone..or what?She now is showing interest in things she never has before...Am I just feeling this or could things be the way that I perceive them to be and she just isn't with me anymore here
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When you are depressed, we take it out on the ones "closet to us" and usually means the ones we are married to. I am on medication for depression, myself, and frankly, I have felt some of the same feelings myself about my own marriage, and my husband has felt some of these feelings as well. But, we have been married for 20, togethr for 21, and I can't imagine my life without my husband, no matter what feelings I have.
The Bible says you are married to your mate until "death do you part." That is a good thing, but it means that sometimes we have to work harder to keep that bond between us. And esp. when we are depressed. WE are suffering on the inside, and it is very hard to feel any thing "good" about what is going on on the outside, and esp. if it concerns someone else. When we are depressed, we become selfish people, and think the whole world is against us, and no one really wants me around any more, and we tend to sit on the pity pot! and feel sorry for ourselves.
Even on medication, we still have to work with the medication. When was the last time you asked your wife if you could join her in what she was doing? When was the last time "you put HER interest above your own"? The medication by itself is not going to magically help us feel better, there is no pill like that!
It's like giving someone a match, they go in a darkened room, and then get scared of the dark, but don't light the match, and then cry because of being afraid of the dark! We depressed people are like that sometimes.
Talk with your wife, and find out WHAT YOU CAN DO to HELP HER? Quit thinking about what She should be doing for you all the time, and do for her for once!
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