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I was diagnosed with severe depression yesterday.
I am really worried about going into work.
I am a Head Chef, and my job itself is really stressful,to the point on Saturday night, I broke down in tears in the middle of a busy service with a panic attack.
I can't face going in, and the thought is making me feel sick.
I am also worried about telling them that I can't come in for a bit.
I didn't ask my doctor for a sick note (maybe I should) as I thought they couldn't give you one for the first weeks sickness.
I'm getting myself into a right state about this.
Has anyone else had this problem before??
Should I ask my doctor for a sick note, and what if he refuses to give me one??? >
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2 weeks ago
My doctor did prescribe anti depressants but nothing else except to come back in 3 weeks.
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Get the sick note. At least ask for it. Because you want to. I am not getting all that good a read on your doctor. Are you really okay with him/her? Do you sometimes feel like you've been "processed" after a typical visit, or are the two of you on the same wavelength? You should be able to talk this completely through with your doctor. For starters. You are obviously very intelligent and sensitive and concerned about your own well being. All of this is positive. But something needs to change, here. The question is, what needs changing? I believe you're fine and the circumstances around you are what need changing. I am feeling any of us would also probably react like you did under the same circumstances. How about a less stressful job? It is perfectly okay to be upset, because you will eventually reach the end of that cycle and move on to either numbing out completely or finding something just plain more interesting to be thinking about. I am thinking job change. It was kind of you to share your situation with us here on Yahoo! Answers because the composite you will read through our answers to you may truly help you find something which will help you move through and beyond this to something much, much better for you. Self-care is job one. It is the thing you keep coming back to. Had you noticed? You get off-track now and then, but you ultimately get back to taking good care of yourself, even including posting this question here this evening. Why am I feeling you need a different doctor? You are not the same person any longer who started out with the doctor you currently have. Please consider this. It is sometimes called getting a second opinion.
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What shines through in your question is how smart you are, and articulate, as well. When you get upset, you bring a fertile imagination to it, and of course, that upsets the apple cart even further. Having a strategy in place ahead of time when you get upset will help you immensely. I usually make hot tea, for example, if I am "ambushed at 3 A.M." out of a sound sleep by something. I have trained myself to go down into the kitchen and make hot tea, honey, milk, go sit quietly in the living room in the dark and calm my brains and enjoy my tea until the cycle passes (or until the adrenalin is reabsorbed - usually 18 minutes) and another thing I do which helps me stay focused and less the victim of circumstances (passive) is to immediately begin a journal or log of what level of anxiety I am feeling (active). I find that by (taking control) rating myself on a scale from one to ten ("I am at a six right now." 6 A.M.) You know, rating it and then putting the time right beside the rating, that within about three pages and about fifteen entries, my anxiety has realigned and I am myself once again. The 6 A.M. will be 6:47 A.M. and the whole thing will be over with. That is just me. Yours will be different - but my point is to have a strategy you make yourself follow which includes only things which you KNOW will help you regain control of who you are and what you are feeling. I appreciate you posting your question, once again, because it has permitted me to come and chat with you for a few minutes in attempting to provide you with some things you can actually use to help you get well sooner. If something more elaborate is required, please do not rule out a second opinion, as I feel your present doctor is not spending any where near enough time getting to fully understand what is really bothering you. It all has the "factory, processing" kind of feel to it, and that is precisely what you can do without. Remember, please, this is not a plate of chicken nuggets we are talking about here, about to be served to someone without taste. It is your life and how to enjoy living it, served to a well above average intelligence young lady who is regaining poise and control of her insides so she can take pride in what she knows and serves others with the dignity and pleasure that anyone would take in a job well done. I am sending you good energies. From Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. (I am 63 years old, and I will tell you the most important thing you can do is self-care. You come first, and until you get treated with respect and real medical insight and follow-up care for what is troubling you, it will be a series of ups and downs and frustration as well. I wish you all the luck in the world getting this whole thing nailed as soon as possible. Best to you always, from - C. |
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