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Can you show me some attention? |
I grew up in an abusive household, which left me unable to distinguish between positive and negative attention.
I have notice that people are paying a lot of attention to Joni B; and even though it seems to be mostly negative attention, I can't help buy feel a twinge of jealously.
Can you please show ME some love, or hate--it's not like I can tell the difference?
Thanks in advance, this should hold me over until I get my doctor to up my perscription. >
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2 months ago
Whew! I feel better already. A special thanks to the fellow who gave my question a thumbs down.
Keep it coming.
P.S.
I am in therapy. I am WAY too petite to carry all my baggage alone.
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A lot of people grew up in an abusive household. I had abuse on and off, do you know how confusing that was for me growing up? It didn't matter if I was good or bad, it was usually when my parents thought I had really been awful that I got a razor strap to my backside. (and usually without an explanation) It left me without being able to set boundaries for myself. My first husband was abusive, and I lived with him for 19 yrs., and got remarried two years later, and he was using most of our married life, but now is recovering,. (MAN WHAT A DIFFERENCE!)
But we all learn what negative and positive attention is, its just that our choices gets all messed up, and we don't know which one we need in our life, or deserve for that matter. The positive makes us feel uncomfortable, and negative makes us feel okay. Until we do some serious self analysing and talk therapy, we stay all mixed up! so the bottom line, we learn to give ourself the attention that we so desparately want from others.
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